I have been living on this planet long enough to realize that life is tantamount to a roller coaster. A continual series of highs and lows that loop over and over again. Which in a weird sort of way is a bit comforting.
The awareness that some unknown event in the foreseeable future is either going to make my day or ruin my month keeps me on an even keel. I worry less because I know I can’t control what’s going to happen. Better to roll with the punches when the time comes.
I say enjoy your highs while they last. But do not become smug or get a big head because somewhere up ahead could be the next dip. In other words, always stay humble and kind.
Likewise when a low hits, it can feel like it will never end. How long the low will last is an unknown. During this dark unknown period, it’s important that we don’t do anything that will cause any long term permanent damage.
Because no matter how low the low’s get there is always a new horizon, you just have to find it. Allow yourself to be in the moment, feel what you need to feel. But take small incremental actions to move toward what hopefully will be the next incline.
Here are a few ideas that can help you keep you moving forward:
Brain Therapy – Sufferers hide their depression because they do not want to be a burden to other people. If you feel that way, then write about how your feeling. For lack of a better term I call it Brain Therapy. There is something very theraputic about writing and gettin lost in the words. Use a computer or paper whichever works best for you. Forget about grammar or complete sentences or story flow. Let the thoughts flow out as best you can, even if they do not make complete sense. What is nice about doing it this way is that you don’t have to show it to anyone, nobody needs to know. The point is to gradually, bit by bit, glean out the thoughts keeping you from moving forward to your next incline.
Talk to somebody – If you are feeling really bad then please talk to someone even if it’s a stranger. Letting out what is inside gives one a sense of relief and well-being. Having a non-judgmental friend to do this with would be awesome. But if you do not have one (very few people actually do) then having a complete stranger works well. They don’t need to know you and most likely will at least listen, maybe even give a little third-party type advice. Reachout to a crisis hotline and bend their ears, they don’t mind.
Get moving – I once seen a nurse have grown men sit straight up in a chair and then lift their feet to march in place. You can get a good workout and it brings up the heart rate. Physical activity no matter what it is helps bridge the gap between body and mind. Do some laundry, change the bed sheets, do a deep cleaning of the house, start doing pushups, take a walk outside if you can, or walk laps around the living room, do something. Getting the blood flowing stimulates your mood and will help move you towards that next horizon.
Make a plan – Create a list of things to do, even it’s just one thing. Say to yourself I’m going to get out of bed tomorrow for 30mins. Or I’m going to call my friend or my kid tomorrow. Or I am going to watch tv in the living room instead of the bedroom. The point is that planning something stimulates your brain. It gives you something to look forward to. Isn’t that what we want, to move forward away from this valley towards the next incline.
Listen to music – My head is still stuck in the 70’s (yep I’m a kinda old) and listening to music from that era can bring me back. Play some tunes that bring you back, that conjure up good vibes and memories when you were la free. Maybe try some self-hypnosis music, it is a bit psychedelic but it can be peace full and relaxing way to ease the mind.
Mediate – the power of positively is amazing. positive affirmations are being used by professional athletes, students, and everyday people. It works because your brain eventually starts to believe what you say. So just say it even you do not necessarily believe it yourself. Here’s an example. You can say 10 times, “I have the power to heal and change my life”, or “I will not worry about things I cannot control”. You might not like the idea but challenge yourself to say something positive about yourself every day. Think of the little engine could.
Boost your ECS – Your endocannabinoid system is responsible for helping you feel balanced. Your ecs needs cannabinoids to function properly and when you don’t have enough then you feel like crap. Cannabidoil (CBD) contains cannabinoids that gives your body’s ECS the boost it needs to help you feel better. Feeling better helps keep you moving forward towards life’s next incline.
Over time you will come to realize that these roller coaster highs and lows are just a part of life. Figuring out what works best for you to help manage the lows will keep you ready for the inevitable next cycle. Cheers to moving forward.